Dating our neighbor
And let him know that if he repeatedly goes over that limit, he is sending a clear message that he doesn’t value your feelings, and you cannot commit to a relationship in which you are repeatedly made to feel that you don’t matter.
Finally, I’d recommend making more of an effort to befriend Jim’s wife.
I suggest you have a sit-down, heart-to-heart talk with your boyfriend about the state of your union.
Lay it all out there: how upset you are that he has repeatedly disregarded you feelings, along with anything else you think warrants discussion. Then, be very, very clear about what it is that you want.
You can talk about the horrible date you had last night or the party you are going to tomorrow.
It’s always nice to have someone to confide in about feelings and emotions that we experience with people we are dating.
It’s even worse that he continues having those guests over after you’ve told him that it bothers you.
If your boyfriend has manipulated you into thinking otherwise, you have far bigger problems than overly friendly neighbors. You can read about me here, peruse the archives here and read popular posts here.Jim’s not a bad guy and his wife and I get along fine as well, but a few weeks ago he started hanging out at our place with my boyfriend every evening and staying there until 9 or 10 o’clock — sometimes even later.I told my boyfriend that I don’t like that there’s always someone in our home and I can never really relax, but later that night, when Jim knocked on the door, my boyfriend let him right in.And the next night, he invited Jim and his wife over for dinner! I told him how much it hurt me that he disregarded my feelings. But now it’s right back to how it was — I come home every night to find Jim in my living room.